Supporting Fussy Eaters: Practical Tips for Families

As parents and occupational therapists, we understand the frustration and concern that comes with navigating fussy feeding in children. Mealtime battles can be emotionally draining for both parents and little ones. In this blog, we explore common signs of fussy feeding, why it might be happening, and practical ways to help your child feel more confident and curious around food.

How Can You Tell if Your Child is a Fussy Feeder?

Fussy eating looks different for every child, but some common signs include:

• Food refusal
  Your child may consistently reject certain foods or even entire meals, turning away, pushing food off the plate, or gagging at particular smells or textures.

• Picky eating habits
  Some children stick to a narrow group of ‘safe’ foods and reject anything unfamiliar, which can limit their nutritional intake and confidence around food.

• Mealtime stress or tantrums
  If your child becomes upset or overwhelmed at mealtimes, it may be their way of expressing discomfort, especially if they feel pressured to eat.

• Long or difficult mealtimes
  Meals that stretch on or require constant encouragement might signal underlying discomfort, sensory sensitivities, or oral motor difficulties.

Why Does Fussy Feeding Happen?

Feeding challenges are rarely just about being picky. There are often deeper reasons behind the behaviour.

• Sensory sensitivities
  Some children experience strong reactions to textures, smells, temperatures, or the look of certain foods. This can lead to discomfort or distress at mealtimes.

• Developmental factors
  As children grow, they naturally test boundaries, assert independence, and experience changes in appetite. Teething, learning to self-feed, and motor development can all affect how they eat.

• Medical or physical causes
  Reflux, food allergies, oral motor delays, or digestive discomfort can all contribute to feeding difficulties. These should be ruled out or supported by a health professional.

• Environmental and emotional factors
  Stress, distractions like screens, or pressure to try it can make mealtimes feel overwhelming. Children quickly pick up on tension, and negative experiences can create long-lasting associations with food.

How Can You Support Your Child with Fussy Feeding?

Create a Calm Mealtime Environment

Keep mealtimes relaxed and enjoyable. Turn off TVs and devices, sit together when possible, and avoid using pressure or rewards. Connection and predictability go a long way.

Introduce Foods Gradually with Food Chaining

Start with foods your child already accepts and introduce new ones that are similar in taste, texture, or appearance.
For example: if your child enjoys applesauce, try offering pureed pear or peach next.

Keep Consistent Meal and Snack Routines

Children thrive on routine. Aim for regular meals and snacks throughout the day. Predictability helps reduce anxiety and supports appetite regulation.

Encourage Sensory Food Play

Before expecting children to eat a new food, let them explore it. Touching, smelling, and playing builds comfort and curiosity.
Try a sensory bin with cooked pasta, rice, or soft fruits with no pressure to eat, just explore.

Model Positive Eating Habits

Children learn by watching. Sit down and eat together when you can. Let them see you enjoying a range of foods, even if they are not ready to join in just yet.

Seek Support When Needed

If feeding challenges are ongoing, stressful, or impacting growth and development, it is okay to ask for help. Occupational therapists, speech pathologists, dietitians, and paediatricians can work with you to uncover any underlying issues and support your child’s feeding journey.

Fussy feeding is common and manageable. Every child is different, and small, consistent changes can lead to big shifts over time. With patience, support, and the right tools, mealtimes can become a more positive experience for everyone at the table. If you are concerned about your child’s feeding, reach out to our team here.